Plug In

Have you ever heard this phrase: Bloom where you’re planted? It relates to relationships as well as to our work. People have a tendency to think that the grass is always greener on the other side. I am not sure where that came from, but it didn’t originate with God.

Relationships and jobs take work. Work is a four letter word to some people, but so is love, and both are good things. Work does not have to be something that we dread, whether it be our employment or our relationships. It simply means that we are putting effort into something that is worthwhile doing.

Many people give up too quickly on their relationships and jobs. I think the reason this happens is that people have the desire to be served, but resist serving. They also expect things to happen quicker than they actually do. That is a problem for a lot of folks, obviously. Look at the divorce rate and the number of jobs that people go through to find something or someone they truly love.

Here are a few tips to help you avoid becoming another casualty:

  • Quit looking for excuses to bail out of a job or relationship before you have given it all you have. Invest your best.
  • If you have been through numerous jobs or relationships, look in the mirror and figure out what you are doing wrong. It is not them.
  • If you don’t fix the issue, you take it with you. Is that what you really want?
  • Taking responsibility means you have to admit the mistakes you have made and the problems you have created as a result. It is necessary if you ever expect to heal and move on.
  • Quit looking for the perfect job or perfect person. They don’t exist.
  • Find a job and a relationship you truly love. It is not just about status, money, attraction, or filling a void.

If a job or a relationship is worth beginning, it is worth truly investing yourself in it to make it successful. Give it all you have. If you have done that and it still does not work out, you have nothing to apologize for. Just learn the lesson and move on.


Dan Skognes

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