has been said that talk is cheap, meaning that people will often tell
you what they think you want to hear. It is a pet peeve of mine when
people do that. I try to be a man of my word. I have not always
succeeded at keeping it, but I don’t intentionally mislead people
with what I say. When I can’t keep my word because of circumstances
out of my control, I at least try to explain it.
think I may be in the minority when it comes to keeping my word.
Perhaps it is due to how I was raised. I admit that I am old school
in many respects. I was taught to keep my word. In fact, when I was
caught in a lie, Mom literally washed out my mouth with a bar of
soap. LOL. I never forgot that lesson. Do parents still do that?
I am too naive. When someone tells me they are going to do something,
I tend to take them at their word and move on. Sadly, I have been
burned many times in life by people who just tell me what I want to
hear. I have had to learn the old adage the hard way: “Fool me
once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”
am eternally optimistic and trusting by nature, but I have learned
that not everyone who calls you friend is a friend. Not everyone who
says they love you really loves you. Their actions will tell the
truth. Pay attention or pay the price.
has to face this question: Why am I here? It is not something to take
lightly, and it is something that each person must answer for
themselves. Nobody can tell you what your purpose is. They may help
you identify it, but ultimately is is up to each one of us to figure
out this great mystery.
find it interesting that some people figure this out as little kids.
They dream of being an astronaut and pursue that dream with great
tenacity till they fulfill it. Other people go through life and never
figure it out at all. That is one of the greatest tragedies I have
observed. That is why you see people doing jobs just for a paycheck
and hating every moment of their day. They have sold their purpose
for a paycheck.
recently asked me what they should do about their career, but they
did not like my answer because it put the responsibility back on
them. I told them: “Pray about it. Ask God to help you
identify what it is that you should do with your life. Once you have
identified your passion, pursue it till you find your
purpose. Don’t let anything or anyone sidetrack you from it.”
many things in life, finding your purposes is both simple and
complex. It is simple in that there are only 4 steps. It is complex
in that you have to be discerning and be willing to fail. Don’t let
the fear of failure keep you from fulfilling your dreams. Everyone
fails. Failure is not fatal unless you quit. The bottom line for each
of us is that we have to take responsibility for the choices we make.
If you are still trying to figure it out for yourself, pray. Ask God
to help you identify your passion, then pursue it until you find your
Why is it that some people have a closed heart? Or worse…a cold heart? I just went through open heart surgery. It always makes you come to terms with who you are when you are facing eternity. You think about what you have done (or not done) with your life.
WouldI change anything in the past if I could? Of course I would! Whowouldn’t?
ThingsI have learned in this process:
Don’t take your health for granted. Bad habits will always catch up with you.
Tell people you love them while you can. Tomorrow may never come.
Make things right with God and people. Don’t go to bed mad.
Don’t let the hardships and tragedies of life jade your heart. Keep an open heart to love God, yourself, and others.
Don’t waste time. Every minute counts. This life is but a blink in eternity. Learn to relax, but don’t waste time.
Expect the unexpected. Adapt, improvise, and move on.
Have you noticed that when someone says, “It’s all good,” it is usually them minimizing something bad that has happened to them? I have the same issue with people who say, “It is what it is.” That is not really true either. When I hear someone say, “It’s all good,” now I just ask them, “How so?” Rarely is it ALL good. When someone says, “It is what it is,” I simply reply, “It is what we make it.” We always have a choice on how we play the cards we’ve been dealt.
encourage folks to confront their fears, their pains, and their failures. Nobody
likes confronting these things. One thing I know for sure is that pain will
have a way of surfacing whether we like it or not. You can avoid it or deny it,
but sooner or later it will manifest itself. It is like people who stuff their
anger. Eventually they erupt and spew on anyone within shouting distance, or
worse, they have a heart attack and die. Either way…it does come out at some
your fears with faith.
your pain with hope.
your failures with forgiveness.
all, let love be your strength, your shield, and your compass. We just have to
have the courage to face it.