At some point in life we come face to face with the fact that life is not fair. The problem is, even though we know it isn’t, we expect it to be! This played out before our eyes recently on national TV with the now infamous non-call that cost the Saints the opportunity to win and go on to the Super Bowl. You could debate that they still could have won, but the fact remains that had the interference call been properly made, they could have run out the clock and won the game.
Here is what I hope come out of this lesson:
- I hope the Saints don’t lose heart from this travesty. They are a great team and will be contenders next year as well.
- I hope that the rules change in the NFL to allow a coach to contest a pass interference. Had this opportunity been in place, a replay would have obviously enforced a penalty against the Rams.
- I hope we all are prepared for life to throw us a curve ball. The good news is that curve balls can be hit. We can survive regardless of what challenges we face.
This is not to take anything away from the Rams and their victory. It was not their issue and they played a great game. It just took some of the satisfaction out of the equation with the way it played out. It would have been fun to see Brady vs. Brees in the Super Bowl (maybe next year if they don’t retire). Of course, I hope the Cowboys are there next year! So in that case…we may never know what could have been.
“When you take offense, you build a fence. Let it go.” Steven Furtick
Have you noticed how hyper-sensitive people are these days? It seems that we are just looking for a reason to be offended at someone. Taking offense is dangerous because that is where hatred and violence are birthed.
I was listening to a sermon recently by Steven Furtick on the subject and realized the deep truth that he laid out to his congregation. When we take offense, we start building a fence between us and the perpetrator. The fence eventually becomes so high and so wide that we can’t get over it any more. What can we do? Let it go.
It is easier said than done, but great advice when you are offended. Let it go. If you hold on to it, you will find yourself chewing on it over and over like a cow chewing its cud. That becomes your reality. The problem is, we assume too many things about other people.
We all have our battles and struggles to deal with. The person who offended you is no different. Don’t let their drama become your play. Why would you allow anyone to control you? It doesn’t make sense when you think about it rationally, but when emotions run high, the brain goes bye-bye.
Give others what you yourself would want them to give you: The benefit of the doubt. Quit thinking the worst of others and assuming they are evil, mean, lazy, or whatever. Perhaps they have some great trauma going on in their life and are just taking it out on whoever is the closest by. I am not saying that is a justification for bad behavior, but it does help to understand why someone is behaving in a way that is offensive to you.
Next time you are tempted to take offense, let it go. You will be better off for it and so will they…particularly if you respond with a kind word or act towards them.