has been said that talk is cheap, meaning that people will often tell
you what they think you want to hear. It is a pet peeve of mine when
people do that. I try to be a man of my word. I have not always
succeeded at keeping it, but I don’t intentionally mislead people
with what I say. When I can’t keep my word because of circumstances
out of my control, I at least try to explain it.
think I may be in the minority when it comes to keeping my word.
Perhaps it is due to how I was raised. I admit that I am old school
in many respects. I was taught to keep my word. In fact, when I was
caught in a lie, Mom literally washed out my mouth with a bar of
soap. LOL. I never forgot that lesson. Do parents still do that?
I am too naive. When someone tells me they are going to do something,
I tend to take them at their word and move on. Sadly, I have been
burned many times in life by people who just tell me what I want to
hear. I have had to learn the old adage the hard way: “Fool me
once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”
am eternally optimistic and trusting by nature, but I have learned
that not everyone who calls you friend is a friend. Not everyone who
says they love you really loves you. Their actions will tell the
truth. Pay attention or pay the price.
has to face this question: Why am I here? It is not something to take
lightly, and it is something that each person must answer for
themselves. Nobody can tell you what your purpose is. They may help
you identify it, but ultimately is is up to each one of us to figure
out this great mystery.
find it interesting that some people figure this out as little kids.
They dream of being an astronaut and pursue that dream with great
tenacity till they fulfill it. Other people go through life and never
figure it out at all. That is one of the greatest tragedies I have
observed. That is why you see people doing jobs just for a paycheck
and hating every moment of their day. They have sold their purpose
for a paycheck.
recently asked me what they should do about their career, but they
did not like my answer because it put the responsibility back on
them. I told them: “Pray about it. Ask God to help you
identify what it is that you should do with your life. Once you have
identified your passion, pursue it till you find your
purpose. Don’t let anything or anyone sidetrack you from it.”
many things in life, finding your purposes is both simple and
complex. It is simple in that there are only 4 steps. It is complex
in that you have to be discerning and be willing to fail. Don’t let
the fear of failure keep you from fulfilling your dreams. Everyone
fails. Failure is not fatal unless you quit. The bottom line for each
of us is that we have to take responsibility for the choices we make.
If you are still trying to figure it out for yourself, pray. Ask God
to help you identify your passion, then pursue it until you find your
Why is it that some people have a closed heart? Or worse…a cold heart? I just went through open heart surgery. It always makes you come to terms with who you are when you are facing eternity. You think about what you have done (or not done) with your life.
WouldI change anything in the past if I could? Of course I would! Whowouldn’t?
ThingsI have learned in this process:
Don’t take your health for granted. Bad habits will always catch up with you.
Tell people you love them while you can. Tomorrow may never come.
Make things right with God and people. Don’t go to bed mad.
Don’t let the hardships and tragedies of life jade your heart. Keep an open heart to love God, yourself, and others.
Don’t waste time. Every minute counts. This life is but a blink in eternity. Learn to relax, but don’t waste time.
Expect the unexpected. Adapt, improvise, and move on.
“When you take offense, you build a fence. Let it go.” Steven Furtick
Have you noticed how hyper-sensitive people are these days? It seems that we are just looking for a reason to be offended at someone. Taking offense is dangerous because that is where hatred and violence are birthed.
I was listening to a sermon recently by Steven Furtick on the subject and realized the deep truth that he laid out to his congregation. When we take offense, we start building a fence between us and the perpetrator. The fence eventually becomes so high and so wide that we can’t get over it any more. What can we do? Let it go.
It is easier said than done, but great advice when you are offended. Let it go. If you hold on to it, you will find yourself chewing on it over and over like a cow chewing its cud. That becomes your reality. The problem is, we assume too many things about other people.
We all have our battles and struggles to deal with. The person who offended you is no different. Don’t let their drama become your play. Why would you allow anyone to control you? It doesn’t make sense when you think about it rationally, but when emotions run high, the brain goes bye-bye.
Give others what you yourself would want them to give you: The benefit of the doubt. Quit thinking the worst of others and assuming they are evil, mean, lazy, or whatever. Perhaps they have some great trauma going on in their life and are just taking it out on whoever is the closest by. I am not saying that is a justification for bad behavior, but it does help to understand why someone is behaving in a way that is offensive to you.
Next time you are tempted to take offense, let it go. You will be better off for it and so will they…particularly if you respond with a kind word or act towards them.