has been said that talk is cheap, meaning that people will often tell
you what they think you want to hear. It is a pet peeve of mine when
people do that. I try to be a man of my word. I have not always
succeeded at keeping it, but I don’t intentionally mislead people
with what I say. When I can’t keep my word because of circumstances
out of my control, I at least try to explain it.
think I may be in the minority when it comes to keeping my word.
Perhaps it is due to how I was raised. I admit that I am old school
in many respects. I was taught to keep my word. In fact, when I was
caught in a lie, Mom literally washed out my mouth with a bar of
soap. LOL. I never forgot that lesson. Do parents still do that?
I am too naive. When someone tells me they are going to do something,
I tend to take them at their word and move on. Sadly, I have been
burned many times in life by people who just tell me what I want to
hear. I have had to learn the old adage the hard way: “Fool me
once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”
am eternally optimistic and trusting by nature, but I have learned
that not everyone who calls you friend is a friend. Not everyone who
says they love you really loves you. Their actions will tell the
truth. Pay attention or pay the price.
has to face this question: Why am I here? It is not something to take
lightly, and it is something that each person must answer for
themselves. Nobody can tell you what your purpose is. They may help
you identify it, but ultimately is is up to each one of us to figure
out this great mystery.
find it interesting that some people figure this out as little kids.
They dream of being an astronaut and pursue that dream with great
tenacity till they fulfill it. Other people go through life and never
figure it out at all. That is one of the greatest tragedies I have
observed. That is why you see people doing jobs just for a paycheck
and hating every moment of their day. They have sold their purpose
for a paycheck.
recently asked me what they should do about their career, but they
did not like my answer because it put the responsibility back on
them. I told them: “Pray about it. Ask God to help you
identify what it is that you should do with your life. Once you have
identified your passion, pursue it till you find your
purpose. Don’t let anything or anyone sidetrack you from it.”
many things in life, finding your purposes is both simple and
complex. It is simple in that there are only 4 steps. It is complex
in that you have to be discerning and be willing to fail. Don’t let
the fear of failure keep you from fulfilling your dreams. Everyone
fails. Failure is not fatal unless you quit. The bottom line for each
of us is that we have to take responsibility for the choices we make.
If you are still trying to figure it out for yourself, pray. Ask God
to help you identify your passion, then pursue it until you find your
At some point in life we come face to face with the fact that life is not fair. The problem is, even though we know it isn’t, we expect it to be! This played out before our eyes recently on national TV with the now infamous non-call that cost the Saints the opportunity to win and go on to the Super Bowl. You could debate that they still could have won, but the fact remains that had the interference call been properly made, they could have run out the clock and won the game.
Here is what I hope come out of this lesson:
I hope the Saints don’t lose heart from this travesty. They are a great team and will be contenders next year as well.
I hope that the rules change in the NFL to allow a coach to contest a pass interference. Had this opportunity been in place, a replay would have obviously enforced a penalty against the Rams.
I hope we all are prepared for life to throw us a curve ball. The good news is that curve balls can be hit. We can survive regardless of what challenges we face.
This is not to take anything away from the Rams and their victory. It was not their issue and they played a great game. It just took some of the satisfaction out of the equation with the way it played out. It would have been fun to see Brady vs. Brees in the Super Bowl (maybe next year if they don’t retire). Of course, I hope the Cowboys are there next year! So in that case…we may never know what could have been.