For this blog, SOS has a dual meaning. Of course, everyone knows it is the international signal for “Help,” but there is another meaning that I want you to consider. I call it “Stuck On Stupid.” They kind of go hand in hand, don’t they?
When I ask you if you have ever known anyone that was SOS, you could probably produce a long list fairly quickly. Here is the catch: Is YOUR name on the list? Have you ever been SOS?
I think most of us would have to admit that we have had our moments of insanity and wondered after the fact how we could have been so stupid. They say that “You can’t fix stupid.” I disagree. You may be Stuck On Stupid, but you can get unstuck if you are willing to change.
SOS people tend to have this in common:
- They don’t listen when people with common sense are telling them to change.
- They don’t learn from their mistakes.
- They don’t believe that they CAN change.
- They often are frustrated and angry people.
If you want to know how to get unstuck for that “friend,” it is pretty simple:
- Admit you need help and be willing to consider the advice from those that love and care for you. Just make sure the one giving you advice is not SOS.
- Don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over. Figure out how to get a better outcome. It is a lot less painful for you and everyone else. Every mistake is an opportunity to learn.
- Change is possible if you are willing to change. Be willing to take the risk. All change involves an element of risk, but the risk of not changing might very well be your worst nightmare.
- Manage your emotions. It is never OK to go off on others. Get therapy if necessary.
SOS people need help. Perhaps you will be the one to rescue them. Just understand that if they are SOS, they may resist your best efforts. Don’t take it personal. Love them, encourage them, and pray for them. Let God be the one to get their attention.