You have heard the old saying that “Success breeds success.” Well, that may be true to a point. I know that when we experience success in something, it energizes us and gives us confidence to succeed again. However, sometimes we do all the right things and we still fail.
I can recall times in my sales career where I did everything I could to make a sale, and the things that worked for me yesterday, last week, or even last year are not working now. I can’t explain it, but sometimes you can do everything right and still fail.
Here are some reasons I have identified why success sometimes fails:
- We might be trying to do something that no longer has significant relevance to the recipient. If it is not a priority to them, cut your losses and move on. Don’t waste time with people who are unwilling or unable to make a decision.
- We may have misjudged the intent of the recipient to begin with. Perhaps they were just being polite and don’t like saying “No.”
- It could just be a timing issue. Sometimes people really do have to wait to make a decision and are not just blowing you off.
- We could be too focused on what we want, and not what the recipient wants. People always seem to sense when someone is desperate for a decision or a sale.
- If ALL…and I mean ALL of the decision makers are not there, don’t waste your time. I can’t tell you how many times someone has told me I was just meeting with them, and not to worry because they had the authority to make the decision…and then when it gets to decision time, they say, “I have to run this past Bob, or Martha, or whomever.” That can drive a preacher to drink!
- If we are unwilling to change and insist on doing things the way we have always done them, we are subject to more than failure…we are subject to becoming obsolete. Montgomery Wards, Kmart, Gibsons, Mervyns, Blockbuster, Circuit City, just to name a few…have all become obsolete. Kmart is still hanging on by a thread in parts of the country, but they are no longer a serious contender in the retail space. JC Penny is next to fall unless they do some serious revamping. Kodak was once the name in photography. No longer. They refused to go digital and have nearly collapsed as a result. They will have a hard time ever regaining the glory days.
Success is something we each would probably define differently. For me, success means having a balanced spiritual life, family life, work life, and social life. It means doing something on a daily basis that has significance and being remembered as a man who loved God 1st and foremost, and loved his neighbor as himself. I work hard, play hard, and know that when I give of myself to God and others…I always receive much more in return. I don’t give to get…I just know that it happens. That gives me contentment, satisfaction, purpose, and Shalom! Have you ever experienced anything like this in your life?