Recently a lady asked me, “What things did your parents say to you that you hated?” That is a thought provoking question and frankly, I did not really want to relive those things again, but I did. It did not take long to remember some things that they said. I thought to myself that I would never say them myself, but life has a way of bringing things out of us that we don’t like.
- “Because I said so.” I particularly hated that one because it did not leave the door open for discussion. I knew if I said anything else my seat of learning might meet the board of education. Today I try to give kids the opportunity to dialog, but some kids just like to argue. For the debaters I sometimes have to resort to the “Because I said so” answer. In time they will hopefully understand the love and wisdom of my decision in their behalf.
- “Don’t talk back to me.” This is the cousin of “Because I said so” and has the same effect of shutting down a discussion. I try to use it only as a last resort.
- “Sit still!” This was an impossible task for me when I was little and it still is at times.
- “Take your nap.” The funny thing is now I LOVE nap time. I just wish I could take them during the week.
Things they taught me that were good and have stuck with me all my life:
- Love God and put Him first in all you do.
- Love your family and be there for each other.
- Be on time. That means be early.
- Be thankful.
- Take care of what you have.
- Be a giver. Help those less fortunate.
- Don’t be afraid to share your faith with others.
- Spend time with the people you love because time goes by too quickly.
- Develop strong friendships. Don’t take them for granted.
- Use your God-given talents.
- Work hard but enjoy the journey.
- Pray without ceasing. Pray about everything and for everyone…especially our leaders.
- Trust God’s Word.
- Don’t live a life of fear or regret.
- Respect others.
- Respect yourself.