This may be the most important blog I have written, and could very well be the most important blog you ever read. That is quite a claim, right? But I am very serious. If I could give you the key to unlock your potential, your destiny, your peace, your joy, your contentment, your love, your very life….you would want to know where that key is and how fast can you get it…right? Well, I am giving it to you. No strings attached.
What keeps people from having the things I listed above? It is simple when you understand this and profound when you impart it. Forgiveness. That is the key to unlocking everything. Think about it. How can you have all that you want and hold on to past hurts? It is like having the motor open full throttle on a great speed boat, but it is anchored to the dock (your past hurts). It is not going to go anywhere is it?
Real living is forgiving. Real living is FOR GIVING. Do you see that? Do you get that? OK, you say you understand the need to forgive, and you DO forgive people regularly, BUT…..”I will NEVER forget it!” Or….”I will forgive them, BUT….(you fill in the blank). It there is a BUT, you have not forgiven them.
You want to know how you have really forgiven someone?
- You are willing forgive them verbally whether they ask for it or not.
- You consciously refuse to bring it up to them or to others again.
- You ask God to bless them! (and MEAN it!)
- You are willing to re-establish fellowship with them. (ARE YOU KIDDING ME?)
I thought I had the concept of forgiveness down. The first two things in the list are hard enough, but moving down to where you will bless them….that took some time and effort on my part…and to actually mean it. But the last one was the one that made me realize all the people I had really NOT forgiven. Mentally, I had made the conscious decision to forgive them, but emotionally the wound was still bare and I just did not want to risk being hurt by them anymore. If you don’t forgive people in your head AND your heart, you are only fooling yourself.
Please don’t take this to the extreme and twist what I am saying. Obviously if someone is in an abusive relationship I am not suggesting they go back to that or risk being physically hurt. However, what I AM suggesting is that if we have truly forgiven someone, we can be in the same room with them and daggers not come out of our eyes when we look at them. We can treat them with respect, kindness, and love regardless of how they have treated us. We are willing to risk getting hurt again for the sake of relationship. That is the lesson. That is God’s way. People…if we get this…and I mean really get this…it will transform how we look at and how we treat people. It will also transform our very lives in a positive way. It is the key that unlocks what we have been searching for.
I did not say using the key would be easy, but I can promise you this one thing: God wants us to have it and to use it. He gave it to us and showed us how to use it through Jesus. If we don’t use it, then we don’t understand God. You can’t claim to know God and follow Him if you don’t forgive others when they wrong you. We have to use this key. It is not an option if you want the things that your heart is yearning for.
I have given you the key, so now it is up to you what you do with it. If you use it, I can promise you this: You will have an understanding of God that is much deeper than it is now, and you will have relationships restored that you thought were dead. If you want your relationship with God to go through the roof, take this concept and do it. USE THE KEY. Ask God to help you forgive others. It may begin by just forgiving yourself…and sometimes, as we all know, that can be the hardest person to forgive.