Have you ever used that phrase, “We need to have a heart to heart talk?” Usually that is not a good thing. It the South we call that a “Come to Jesus meeting.” And THAT is not a good one either. It simply means that we are going to put the cards on the table, and it may get ugly. It has the implication of drawing the line in the sand with someone and making sure they don’t cross it.
But that is not what I am getting at here. We actually need to understand that communicating Heart to Heart is one of the most basic needs we have as human beings. We need to connect with each other at a deep level. We need to be able to talk to someone about the deepest concerns we have, and share our dreams.
There are some inherent roadblocks that have to be overcome for this to happen:
Roadblock 1. Fear of being hurt. People are often afraid of what someone else will think or how they might respond if we open up our heart to them. Fear is not good. It simply keeps you from having meaningful relationships. You have to risk being hurt or misunderstood to receive the reward of connecting Heart to Heart. The risk is worth the reward. Just because you had someone hurt you in the past does not mean this is going to happen now. Could it? Yes. But what if you miss the blessing of a healthy relationship because you are afraid of something that was not going to happen? Living in the Land of What If is a lonely place to live. It will keep you isolated from any meaningful relationship if you let it.
Roadblock 2. Fear of what other people will think of you. We have to understand that transparency in relationships is a good thing. Quit pretending to be somebody that you are not. Take off the mask and let people see who you are. If you don’t like who you see in the mirror, that is up to YOU to do something about that. Even then, admitting that you have flaws makes you human. You ARE a human, yes?
When you truly connect with someone Heart to Heart, you sense it. You know that you are entering a deeper level of communication that has almost mystical power. You sense that you truly understand someone when you communicate with someone on this level…and they understand you. It is almost as if the two hearts embrace, because in a spiritual sense, they do.
My hope is that you make an effort to connect Heart to Heart with everyone you meet. Be transparent. Don’t let fear rob you of meaningful relationships. Connecting Heart to Heart is a God-given gift. That is how God connects to us, so it is pretty easy to see that when we connect with other people this way….it is a God thing. A great thing!