Get Real
Last Friday I was asked to help out a teacher in 3rd grade who had a kid throwing a temper tantrum. He was throwing things around in the room and was out of control. I called him out in the hallway and asked him what was going on. He turned his back to me and didn’t respond. I said, “Come on. I just want to talk with you. You are not a kindergartner. You are in 3rd grade.” He turned around but still said nothing. I said, “Please look at me and tell me what is going on.” He looked up and said, “My parents are getting divorced.” I put my hand on his shoulder and said, “Buddy, I know what you are going through. I have gone through a divorce and everyone hurts, but it will get better. You can still have a relationship with your Mom and Dad. It will just be different.” We walked down the hallway as he calmed down. It saddens me to think how many kids are going through this. Kids are the ones who suffer the most in a divorce. Just a reminder that you don’t know what you don’t know.
Getting real with someone is being willing willing to share the pain.