Is It More Important To Be Right?

Business confrontation.

Are you one of those people who always has to be right?  Do you always have to have the last word in an argument? Can I tell you a secret?  You are the only one who is being fooled.  People that are always right are like folks that have to brag all the time about what they have done.  They are building themselves up in their own eyes.  They are trying to convince everyone that they are the ones who are right and everyone else is wrong.

It is really kind of twisted when you think about it. Why would someone put being right over having relationship?  Well, in a word, it is insecurity.  Someone who has true self-confidence does not have to be right all the time.  They recognize that it is better to admit it when you are wrong for the sake of relationship.

Basic truths:

  • Relationships are more important than being right.  Even if you are right, find a way to maintain your relationship.  Forcing your “right” down someone’s throat will hurt your relationship, and possibly kill it.
  • Admitting you are wrong is a sign of maturity.  Grow up and be transparent.  Relationships can’t endure in a self-righteous atmosphere.
  • If you are right about something, learn to speak the truth in love.  There are a myriad of ways to say the same thing.  Some of them are humble, kind, and yet to the point.  Some of them are proud, cruel, and cut to the bone.  Think about “how” you say something is just as important as “what” you say.
  • If you remember nothing else, remember this, “Being right all the time is simply wrong.”  It is wrong on so many levels.  You are lying to yourself, you are offending others, and you are missing the blessing of having healthy relationships.

So, how are you doing on the “I am always right” meter?  I hope that if this is you, that you wake up, grow up, and make up if you have to.  Relationships are important to everyone on this planet.  I am not right about everything….but I am pretty sure I am right about this one.

Shalom!

Dan Skognes

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